DISQUS

Art of Manliness: Growing a Manly Beard

  • Ced · 1 year ago
    i wish i could grow my beard back for winter, but due to my job i cannot have a beard, but back when i was younger i would grow a beard every winter
  • Nesagwa · 1 year ago
    Trimming your beard is like tending a Bonzai. You only need to take off a little at a time at odd intervals.

    One thing I think a lot of people forget about is washing and conditioning your beard. It gets rid of the itching a lot of people complain about and helps avoid ingrown hairs and keep it shiny and smooth.
  • Bernie Franks · 1 year ago
    Haha, yesterday everyone was commenting on how big my beard's gotten. I grow it out every winter since I spent a lot of time walking around outside and it provides some nice warmth against the Illinois winter winds. I remember shaving it off one January after it having gotten frozen a number of time in the cold. Boy was that a shock!
  • Joseph · 1 year ago
    Unfortunatly for my family we can't grow beards only really hideous mustaches.
  • Keith · 1 year ago
    My dad promised for years that he would never shave again after he retired. And he hasn't. The dedication he has to that beard is amazing. At one point his doctor told him he needed to shave to make use of some machine for sleep apnea and he refused. The promise had been made, and even the fact he stopped breathing at night wouldn't deter him from manly beardedness.

    If I could get past how silly I look with facial hair I would love to forgo shaving. After about five days though I think I look silly. How do I move past that phase?
  • jefflo · 1 year ago
    Alas, I am genetically impaired! Manly beards are not my family's forté.
  • Will · 1 year ago
    I love having a beard!

    @Keith: give it a month! Five days isn't nearly enough time to know what it'll be like.
  • Will · 1 year ago
    I love my beard!

    @Keith: five days isn't nearly enough time to judge -- give it a month! (And expect it to continue to become more full over the next year.)
  • luke · 1 year ago
    A beard is something you have to put up with if you're lost in the woods for weeks, or if you're a guy who gets ridiculous amounts of razor bumps from shaving (like some black dudes I've known).

    Beards suck, plain and simple. I've grown a few so I know from whense I speak. My genetic heritage makes it easy for me grow a thick lustrous beard, but lets face it I'm not Santa Clause, Jesus or Zeus so what's the point?

    And I have to say, just based on my personal experience, dudes with the serial beard thing happening tend to be prickish. Just sayin...don't say you haven't noticed too. Here's a list:

    1. Commander Reiker - Prick
    2. Charles Manson - Prick
    3. that guy Anthony I work with - Prick
    4. Saddam Hussein (after weeks in his hidey hole) - Prick
    5. Wolf Blitzer - Prick
    6. Axl Rose (occasionally) - Prick (always)
    7. Kenny Logins - Prick
    8. that guy from Iron and Wine - Prick
    9. Paul McCartney (in the 70's) - Prick (to this day)
    ...and the list goes on

    Furthermore, women generally despise beards. And why not? Do you like a hairy twat? Would you like to find, say, some mashed potatos or BBQ sauce in there? Well, your beard is like that hairy twat with all that crap in it except its on your face. She loves kissing that. Sure she does...

    Save the beard for when you're old and allowed to be a prick all the time, for when the possibility of getting laid ever again is a cruel joke, and for when looking distinguished over actually being distinguished will have to do.

    I thank you.

    *the following people are excluded from the above scathing tyrade - Billy F. Gibbons, Dusty Hill and Frank Beard(!), God, Santa Clause, Zeus, Jesus, Kerry King and the Sea Captain from the Simpsons*
  • Rob · 8 months ago
    your a wanker.

    Get a life.

    Just because your too insecure to be comfortable with yourself.

    Women don't hate beards. Every girl i've been with loved my beard.


    So maybe your just assuming things to make yourself feel better about the fact that women won;t sleep with you if you've got a beard. I'm sure if that's the case you wouldn't get laid without a beard either.


    .....



    I THANK YOU... dickhead.
  • Andrew Conkling · 1 year ago
    I end up plucking stray hairs from around my beard (up on my cheeks and around my mouth). I used to feel a bit silly about it, but grooming a beard is a man's work. :)
  • luke is a genius · 1 year ago
    *mantear*
    I couldn't believe how perfectly accurate that observation was. I know so many pricks with beards. I think modern U.S. society sort of makes fun of beards in general, so you better be _very_ confident in your skin (or beard-covered skin) to grow one out.

    I could grow mine out fairly quickly, but like luke, I don't see the point. It's an image thing too. I've been clean shaken forever, except for a few odd years during adolescene, so I'm sticking with it.
  • Sean · 1 year ago
    @luke - That must be an american thing. I live up in the Frozen North (aka Canada), and everyone that I've met who has a beard has been a likeable guy.

    Of course, I may be biased because I have a manly beard ( which I love and adore ). Part of the reason I like my beard so much is that I look much better with it, although that may just be because I've had one for about six years now ( since grade 11 ) and have no plans to shave it off.

    And it's not true about women not liking beards. All of my girlfriends have loved the beard ( something to play with and run their fingers through ), and I've gotten complements on the street from random people ( girls and guys alike ).

    As far as having things stuck in there, yeah, that happens. But I take care when eating sticky food, or food with lots of sauce. After eating I wash up ( a little soap and water goes a long way ), which takes care of that problem. I rarely -- if ever -- have food stuck in my beard. Of course, shampoo-ing and conditioner-ing the beard when I shower helps keep the 'cling level' of my beard down, which is good, because I have fairly curly hair ( head and beard ).

    Pic of said awesome beard for reference: http://flickr.com/photos/rebelcan/2306734448/in...
  • NZR · 1 year ago
    The men in my family can grow great beards and I have tried on occasion. MY wife doesn't like it too much though and I still seem (at age 27) to have a plethora of blonde "little boy" whiskers that are interspersed on my beard.

    Therefore, I usually go for the "weekend" shadow and then shave during the week.
  • amy demik · 1 year ago
    Thanks a lot Brett....Ryan is determined to have a MANLY (if not THE Manliest) beard in town.
    Is December "Clean Shaven Month"?????
  • Brett · 1 year ago
    @Amy-

    I think Ryan has a decent shot of having THE manliest beard in town. I'm quite envious of it, as I'm sure many a man is. It's a crime to put a razor to that manly masterpiece.
  • Art2Go · 1 year ago
    Tip from a seasonal gray beard:

    Amazingly, aftershave lotion will stop the itching of a new growth, don't shave!, just wash with shampoo & hot water then liberally apply some aqua-velva.
  • Bernie Franks · 1 year ago
    @luke - I don't think I can take seriously any argument that cites Santa Claus, Zeus, Jesus, and cartoon characters as examples of "good people with beards."

    @Sean - I don't know what bias against this beards these guys are seeing, but it surely isn't an American thing. There's a reason a lot of male actors in Hollywood are growing out beards, and it surely ain't because they're ugly or because women hate them.
  • Jones · 1 year ago
    Well, after a fairly disfiguring accident last january, where I tore open my lip pretty good, its been nigh on impossible for me to shave my upper lip without cutting myself. And because of the road rash on my face and jaw, i couldnt shave the rest of my face for about a month. And so began my bearding adventure. The 'circle beard' area, basicly teh goatee and mustache, came in fairly quickly, however, the mustache was still fairly light coloured. Now, 10 months later, the neck and the jaw has grown in, and the mustache has darkened. However the cheeks are still fairly sparse. As of this point in time, I am trimming once a week what ive got and shaving the cheeks and soulpatch area down to the 'chin strap'. The sticking point for me is how to make this beard fit my haircut. Right now its decently longer than a buzz cut. I am considering moving to a fairly short buzzed head, as I figure it will compliment a shorter beard, which I prefer. My question to the teeming masses of this site is what do you think? Yes I know it was damn near an autobiography, but please consider my plight.
  • Matt · 1 year ago
    @Bernie Franks:

    There is a cultural bias against beards in American society, especially in professional settings. Actors and other celebrities do not have to play by these rules, which is why it's "hip" or "edgy" to sport such a look in the entertainment business.

    Many employers ban facial hair altogether, but more commonly the practice is to simply frown upon men who wear full beards, and to distrust them as "unconventional" or "subversive" and pass up these individuals for hiring and promotions. Goatees and conservative sideburns are typically less controversial, but full beards almost always are.
  • Matt · 1 year ago
    @luke - According to myth, Zeus, taking the form of a swan, raped a woman in her sleep. Google "Leda and the Swan."
  • luke · 1 year ago
    My comments were meant to be funny, not to be taken seriously (obviously). However, I'm glad it was so convincing.
    A career in politics or PR is sure to follow....haha.
  • CoffeeZombie · 1 year ago
    I, personally, have not met many (if any, I can't recall) bearded men who were pricks.

    Granted, my father has had a beard for as long as I can remember. I started growing one after graduating college and getting a "real job" (i.e., programming, as opposed to working at a fast food restaurant where I was admittedly subversive by growing chops...I don't know how I got away with it, actually).

    I decided to grow a full beard because I hate shaving. And regarding women and beards, all I know is that I shaved everything off once about a year ago and my then-fiancee (now wife) immediately said, "grow it back."

    The only downer is that, while she does want me to keep it nicely trimmed, she won't let me go for the General Burnside (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ambrose_Burnside) look. :-(
  • Adam Snider · 1 year ago
    I think Luke was trying to be funny and, even though I disagree with his comments, I did think it was kind of funny. I mean, Commander Riker was a prick? I don't think so. Haha!

    I'm with Sean, though, every bearded guy I've met (again, up here in Canada) has been an awesome guy, with very rare exception. I think beards might be more common up here in the frozen north, too, since I know a fair number of guys who have them. These guys aren't just artsy types, either. Many of them are highly successful professionals.

    Sadly, many women aren't fond of beards, but my girlfriend loves my beard and got quite annoyed when I decided to joke that I had shaved it off (obviously, this was on the phone, and not face-to-face).
  • rjay · 1 year ago
    I grew my beard when my work was taking me out of town for a week at a time, and I forgot to bring a razor along on one of those trips. After I got home, I decided to go ahead and let it keep growing for a while and see how I looked. That was over thirty years ago and I still have it.

    My dad, who had the testosterone-packed, extremely manly job of being a fighter pilot in the U.S. Air Force copied my example and grew his own beard out almost as soon as he retired from his 20-year stint and took up teaching college. And he's had his beard for about 20 years now (and looks even more manly than he did as an active duty fighter pilot).

    @luke - I must agree that you pointed out some pricks who have beards, but I know a lot more pricks who are clean shaven. Here's the beginning of a list for you:

    1. Dick Cheney - Prick
    2. Tom Cruse - Prick
    3. Axl Rose (usually) - Prick (always)
    4. Donald Trump - Prick
    5. Many guys I have worked with who shall remain nameless - Pricks
    6. Steve Ballmer - Prick
    7. Sylvester Stallone - Prick
    8. Talking heads on TV - Pricks
    9. Virtually every politician on earth - Pricks...
    ....ad infinitum
  • Jake · 1 year ago
    @Matt -

    It's with just this problem in mind that I've interviewed for every job I've ever had with a freshly trimmed and cleaned-up beard. Maybe I'm paranoid, but I never want to get into a situation where my boss asks me to shave at work! I simply set (bearded) expectations early-on.
  • Wes · 1 year ago
    Interesting comments from all here ...

    For those who say they "can't" grow a beard, this is not true in 99% of the cases I've encountered. Time and patience will get that face fur into fine shape. And maybe some Biotin for good measure ... Exceptions go to my Native American friends, as they only seem to be able to pull off the mustache, and sometimes a goatee. Even then, something is better than nothing. The mustache is not to be feared, it is, in some ways, more manly than the beard.

    As for women and beards ... well, would you want to be with a woman that is so superficial a little facial hair is a no-no? Beyond that, when did you hand your scrotum over to the other side? Just curious ... But seriously, any woman that's not just into you for looks/money/pure vacuousness should be able to handle the man scruff. This is usually just an excuse from men who are scared to grow the beard for fear of rejection. Guess what ... chicks don't dig desperation to begin with.

    Men with beards being pricks ... well, as another commenter noted, there are plenty o' bald faced assholes out there, too. They tend to come in all shapes and sizes.

    The work thing is tough to get around, and I understand fully the desire to keep a roof over your head and food in your stomach. Pass granted, but in most work places a trim and neat beard is totally acceptable.
  • jamey r. · 1 year ago
    @Adam Snider - Commander Richert was most certainly a prick! Totally a douche... That being said, I love a man with a beard. (But what do I know...I have a hairy twat.)
  • bill · 1 year ago
    I would have written this post like this:

    "Stop shaving."

    So many words for one simple command. Jeezy.
  • Roger Imhada · 1 year ago
    I've had a full beard now for about six months. I trim up and shave the neck with a straight edge razor. That's two manly things a beard and a straight edge. I love my beard, so manly.
  • Katja · 1 year ago
    All right, first of all - it's spelled "Riker". How hard is that? I guess there's a lot of men out there who are threatened by the sight of another man in a beard. Personally, I think Jonathan Frakes (since I assume you're talking about STTNG's Commander Riker) looks a lot better with a beard due to the shape of his chin. I doubt it has much to do with the personality of his stage character.

    Secondly, let me just say that speaking as a woman, the attractiveness of any given beard depends on certain factors:

    1. Neatness counts. Whether long or short, beards should be well groomed. Just like the rest of you. This includes cleanliness, by the way.

    2. Know your limits. If you're not genetically blessed enough to produce a decent looking beard after giving it a fair try, accept your lot and move on.

    3. Confidence counts. If you don't feel confident in a beard, don't wear one. You'll look foolish because you feel foolish. Lack of confidence is definitely UNmanly.

    I've dated 'both sides'. Personally, I think a beard, well kept and on a reasonably well-boned face looks good and yes, manly. I'm fortunate to be married to a man who looks great with a beard. And while he's in the habit of growing it out in the fall anyway, he indulges me by growing it out a little earlier so I can enjoy it longer.
  • Michael · 1 year ago
    Gentlemen:
    I love my beard, I grow it every winter, then shave it come Easter. However, the Gentleman in the black hat above? Four words for ya.. "Y"... "M"... "C".. ."A"...

    And by the by, Gentlemen. Lets' drop all the cursing. Makes us sound like teenagers, not Men.
  • Pat · 1 year ago
    And remember Manuary is around the corner...every one must grow!
  • Jason Fowler · 1 year ago
    If you want to see the manliest beard ever, look at the beard on the following page.

    http://archives.sbts.edu/partner/Article_Displa...

    The fine beard picture there belongs to Basil Manly, Jr. Due to his last name, and the fine quality of his beard, he wins the Manly Beard award by default.
  • Ross · 1 year ago
    Originally Posted By JosephUnfortunatly for my family we can't grow beards only really hideous mustaches.


    There's no such thing as a hideous moustache!
  • Chip · 1 year ago
    Beard aficionados may be interested in this lovely poster of the beard hierarchy:
    http://www.beardrevue.com/2008/12/heirarchy-of-...
    Sadly, I must forgo the seasonal beard this year...
  • Nigel · 1 year ago
    Really enjoyed this beard feature. After 2 false starts, grew mine in 2005 and wouldn't be without it now. To all out there that may be undecided, it's the way forward.
  • Jay · 1 year ago
    I haven't shaved or trimmed my beard in 2 years and I have no plans to ever cut it. I want to see how long I can grow it. I get a lot of compliments on it now that it is about 8 inches long from both men and women. I think people really like the fact that I just don't give a crap and let it grow.
  • fathersez · 1 year ago
    I have kept a bead for the last 20 years, and would feel like a plucked chicken if I ever had to take it off. I intend to go off with my beard intact.

    And I like to think that I am no "prick".....just in case Luke is still keeping count.

    Regards
  • Noxe · 1 year ago
    I am currently growing out my beard.

    However, I have hair on my head that falls below my shoulders. I am a longhair.

    I will join the longhair with the longbeard. Something about a manufactured hair cut and a long beard seems odd to my sense of style. A naturally balding man with a buzz cut, however, is old enough to pull off the beard/buzzcut look.

    I think my long beard and long hair will look more natural and real. And I agree with the lady earlier: grooming and cleanliness are paramount, no matter how short or long your hair.
  • Peachfuzzjackson · 1 year ago
    man i fuckin wish i could grow a beard...or can I? What do you guys think. This is the situation, I'm 18 and i got pretty scimpy facial hair growin, i got a little bit of side burn stubble and thats from shaving very sparcingly throughout the years. I'm just wondering if i keep at shavin this peach fuzz will it eventualli evolve into a respect commanding man beard or what?
  • Christian · 11 months ago
    The Hottest secret of growing beard that haven't appeared online is
    * Always rub hot drink on you beard
    * Always Barb you beard.
    * Always allow you girl to feel you beard
  • Tim Singleton · 11 months ago
    Well, Luke, I am growing a beard and I don't consider myself a prick. The amount of effort you have spent in nominating all the pricks in the world marks you as someone who is in his early teens, or stuck emotionally in his teens. I came on here to learn how to deal with the corners of my mouth and my beard and here you are, saying why I and everyone who grows a beard is a prick. I happen to know that many women love a man with a beard, LOL, mainly because women love men who are men.

    'Sides, all the pricks I know drive huge farm pickups with oversize knobbies even though they live in a subdivision and ain't hit a true mudhole in ten years.

    ...but even all of those fellow are not pricks, they just like trucks.

    Is there anyone who has problems with the corners of their mouths as their beard grows. or is this another one of those things you just have to get through til it get better.

    PS My asian girlfriend loves my beard, LOL, and so do all her girlgriends.
  • Steven Copley · 11 months ago
    I'm sticking with my normal winter beard until at least May.
  • Average Joe · 10 months ago
    Have you ever noticed that people tend to like you best the way you are when they first met you?

    That is, if you have a beard, and everyone knows you bearded, and you shave it off, almost all of them will immediately insist that you grow it back, because you look better with it.

    But if you don't have a beard, and people are used to knowing you clean shaven, and you grow one, most will tell you to shave it off because you look better without it.

    Just an observation.
  • matt · 10 months ago
    I am worried about growing my beard for 2 reasons.

    The hair on my cheek, closer to my eyes grows at about half the rate of the rest of my hair. it takes 2 days after a clean shave to notice it again, while the rest grows in within 24 hours.

    two, I have very curly hair on my head, but I want to go for the organized beard look. Is there a product I can get to have my beard look less like Osama bin ladens while i grow it out?

    I am starting my stint today and wont be trimming until March 18th. Wish me luck!
  • Big Al · 9 months ago
    I've been growing my beard for the past 6 weeks. The moustache, chin and throat area are pretty full, but the cheeks are sporadic to some degree -thick tuffs here, thin tuffs there. Just wondering if anyone else has had the same and how long it took to fill out on the cheeks.

    I am thinking of getting it trimmed (groomed) at the end of this week as I start a new job, but by the same token I don't want to ruin it.

    Cheers :)
  • Scott · 9 months ago
    A man without a beard is very much like woman with one.
  • Tim Singleton · 9 months ago
    Well, I shaved mine. I could not seem to find a method for dealing with the painful bumps that come up under the beard. Tried alcohol, witch hazel, shampoos....still no help. I even tried just digging them out thinking it was maybe an ingrown hair.

    I suppose they are just part of the price of having a beard. I will try again next winter, maybe as I had lots of positive response on the thing.

    Best of luck!

    Tim
  • Rocco · 8 months ago
    In response to several ill informed comments regarding women hating men with beards - I’ve been bearded for several years now and I was initially worried what women’s reactions would be when I first started growing it ,being single at the time. If anything I’ve had more success with women being bearded than clean shaven - one considerable motivating factor was the reaction of a particularly attractive girl who worked in a bar I used to frequent who had never previously seemed to notice me. When I walked in bearded after an absence of a few weeks she remarked on how much she liked my beard and how much it suited me. Many other girls made similar comments - in fact most of the negative responses came from other guys. Fast forward to 2009 and I’m happily married with a son. The moral of the story is grow your beards guys and be comfortable in your own selves - don’t be put off by how you think people will react because how they actually react will often surprise you.
  • Scott · 8 months ago
    I have wanted to grow a nice big beard for a long time. I finally decided to stop shaving and let it grow. It is getting pretty itchy but I am not going to let that stop me. Wish I had a way to make it a little less itchy