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Re: The Do’s & Don’ts Of a Dinner Date

Jordan — Thu, 16 Jul 2015 12:56:26 -0000

I seriously don't get the whole "pay for a woman's dinner" thing. That is an artifact of an age gone by where women had separate pay scale (like they literally made less money because they were a woman). Women have money now and can pay their fair share. I see nothing unmanly about splitting a bill (or at least asking her to pick up the tip).

Re: The Do’s & Don’ts Of a Dinner Date

Bab Adetiba — Wed, 08 Oct 2014 19:06:00 -0000

In my short history (I'm 23), a clean residence and especially bathroom is a huge turn on! a nice, faint smell too....I suggest some sort of plug in fragrance, nothing too strong for the nose, though.
AOM has a post about this already, of course.

Re: The Do’s & Don’ts Of a Dinner Date

Bab Adetiba — Wed, 08 Oct 2014 19:05:00 -0000

I disagree that men should pay for every date. If a woman is interested, she shouldnt opposed to covering the bill.

Re: The Do’s & Don’ts Of a Dinner Date

Bab Adetiba — Wed, 08 Oct 2014 15:06:32 -0000

Re: The Do’s & Don’ts Of a Dinner Date

Bab Adetiba — Wed, 08 Oct 2014 15:05:14 -0000

I disagree that men should pay for every date. If a woman is interested, she shouldnt opposed to covering the bill.

Re: The Do’s & Don’ts Of a Dinner Date

Prismonic — Fri, 08 Aug 2014 01:15:00 -0000

I think it's fantastic. I'd love this guy already.

Re: The Do’s & Don’ts Of a Dinner Date

Prismonic — Fri, 08 Aug 2014 01:13:00 -0000

Thank you. I really didn't think prebusing was appropriate.

Re: The Do’s & Don’ts Of a Dinner Date

Prismonic — Thu, 07 Aug 2014 21:15:02 -0000

I think it's fantastic. I'd love this guy already.

Re: The Do’s & Don’ts Of a Dinner Date

Prismonic — Thu, 07 Aug 2014 21:13:45 -0000

Thank you. I really didn't think prebusing was appropriate.

Re: The Do’s & Don’ts Of a Dinner Date

Matt Redman — Sat, 26 Jul 2014 03:54:00 -0000

Any moderately-skilled waiter can modify techniques on the fly. Trust me.

Re: The Do’s & Don’ts Of a Dinner Date

Matt Redman — Sat, 26 Jul 2014 03:52:00 -0000

Ummmmm, don't you spend enough time next to her on car rides? Or walking around together?

Re: The Do’s & Don’ts Of a Dinner Date

Matt Redman — Sat, 26 Jul 2014 03:51:00 -0000

Nope. Worked for years between cafe's, restaurants, and country clubs.

Kudos to the dining guests who stack the plates and collect silverware for me. I admit, it's not always perfect, but it can really make the difference if you are serving a wedding of 200.

Re: The Do’s & Don’ts Of a Dinner Date

Matt Redman — Sat, 26 Jul 2014 03:46:00 -0000

You must be new here.

Re: The Do’s & Don’ts Of a Dinner Date

Matt Redman — Fri, 25 Jul 2014 23:54:36 -0000

Any moderately-skilled waiter can modify techniques on the fly. Trust me.

Re: The Do’s & Don’ts Of a Dinner Date

Matt Redman — Fri, 25 Jul 2014 23:52:42 -0000

Ummmmm, don't you spend enough time next to her on car rides? Or walking around together?

Re: The Do’s & Don’ts Of a Dinner Date

Matt Redman — Fri, 25 Jul 2014 23:51:19 -0000

Nope. Worked for years between cafe's, restaurants, and country clubs.

Kudos to the dining guests who stack the plates and collect silverware for me. I admit, it's not always perfect, but it can really make the difference if you are serving a wedding of 200.

Re: The Do’s & Don’ts Of a Dinner Date

Matt Redman — Fri, 25 Jul 2014 23:46:42 -0000

You must be new here.

Re: The Do’s & Don’ts Of a Dinner Date

atlanta_guy_1 — Fri, 11 Jul 2014 19:46:00 -0000

On the strategic flip side, this is a good opportunity to observe and learn some things about the other person. What are their manners. How do they treat the service people. How do they act in public. Can they eat a meal and still talk. Says a lot..

Re: The Do’s & Don’ts Of a Dinner Date

Nullist — Fri, 11 Jul 2014 17:47:00 -0000

"Pay for the whole bill" I strongly disagree with this one for many reasons. We are in the 21st Century. If the girl actually turns out to expect you to pay for her, dont, and never date her again.

Re: The Do’s & Don’ts Of a Dinner Date

atlanta_guy_1 — Fri, 11 Jul 2014 15:46:22 -0000

Re: The Do’s & Don’ts Of a Dinner Date

Nullist — Fri, 11 Jul 2014 13:47:27 -0000

"Pay for the whole bill" I strongly disagree with this one for many reasons. We are in the 21st Century. If the girl actually turns out to expect you to pay for her, dont, and never date her again.

Re: The Do’s & Don’ts Of a Dinner Date

John Kazoo — Fri, 18 Apr 2014 21:31:44 -0000

Another important couple of don't' s: 1) Don't belch or cart in front of your date. That's bad form. 2) Don't scratch your crotch. Let her do that later for you. 3) Never spit food by talking. No woman wants to feel lime a paint ball target. 4) DO NOT PICK YOUR NOSE! Go to the shitter and harvest your nose fruit! Master these, and you'll go far, young man.

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Renee Marchol — Thu, 30 Jan 2014 06:58:01 -0000

I agree that a table topics volley makes a date fun!

Re: The Do’s & Don’ts Of a Dinner Date

Perry — Sat, 21 Dec 2013 23:54:59 -0000

I always clean up my table.

But I don't over do it, obviously.

Anyone who has a problem with it has issues.

It's called being "nice."

Maybe that would be great way to weed out the wrong kind of women. . . .

Re: The Do’s & Don’ts Of a Dinner Date

James Abel — Tue, 10 Dec 2013 18:04:29 -0000

Wow....who would have though pre-bussing a table would get some much time in comparison with the subject of the article. The purpose of mentioning pre-bussing was to show that you, as a man, don't mind helping out and don't consider cleaning a table beneath you. Whether or not it irritates the wait staff is kind of irrelevant to the situation. You aren't trying to date the waiter/waitress. You are trying to show your date that you are thoughtful of other people. As a former busboy (long ago) I didn't care one wit whether someone prebussed the table or not. I would have recognized it as the thoughtful gesture that it was instead of being mad about it, especially with the lack of polite customers in the service industry. As far as any comments about making you look low class if you pick up your dirty dishes, well, that is elitist snobbery and if I was dating a woman that felt that way, I would burn the tread off of my tires to get away from her. C'mon folks, prebussing the table isn't the end of the world, even if it makes your server so mad they spit nails. It's not like you are intentionally trying to be a difficult customer.

As far as the meat of the article, I agree with it. I think you could follow this list as a general guide and adjust to the situation as needed. Most people appreciate polite, clean, thoughtful dates and that just keeps you from being dismissed up front.